I usually don’t like it when people make out a wedding to be all about the bride, but I’m going to go ahead and be a hypocrite and talk about this amazing woman I shot for in January 2015. (And her super enthusiastic family, but they’re Gujratis so what else do you expect? The only people to beat the Punjabis in energy levels.)
I hadn’t met Nirvi before the wedding, so I was in for a surprise when I landed at her house to shoot. I was looking for the most dressed lady in a room full of already well dressed people, when in walks a tall girl in a simple dress, without make-up, hi-fiving and hugging everyone in the way. “Hey, I’m the bride! Doesn’t look like it na?”
I think I was won over right then, but I distinctly remember multiple moments over the course of the next few days of shooting her wedding when I kept getting won over again and again.
When I noticed her unpainted nails and Mehendi-less hands at the party because she just didn’t like it, when she didn’t complain about everyone lathering her with haldi and ran around hugging them later, when she wore sneakers under her lehenga at the sangeet because “why would anyone wear uncomfortable footwear that’s not going to be seen anyway? Also, I really want to dance today”, when she was clearly the loudest person cheering for everyone’s performances, when she chose Prabhu Deva’s Muqabala as the song to dance on stage (I think I was the one cheering the loudest at this point), when she exclaimed “I look absolutely amazing!” after she was first allowed to see herself in the mirror before her wedding, when she danced in the baraat herself because the groom was late and “I have nothing to do until then anyway!”
I loved her because I saw how unfazed she was by the superficialities of weddings. They are made out to be such a big deal, with tremendous pressure on everyone, and the brides seem to take on most of it on themselves (slightly guilty here myself). So it is refreshing and heartening to see someone who hasn’t let the nonsense get to them.
Of course the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree as they say. Her uncles danced on a vintage Anil Kapoor song in a ritual which required them to enter her house with goodies, because why not? 😀
What made this couple amazing was also the gentle and kind Neel. Always smiling, always slightly clueless about everything happening around him (since he’s an NRI), and so so charming. The value of these calm and loving partners for the extroverts cannot be put into words.
He danced at the sangeet and his parents said that that the first time he had ever danced in his life. The only time I heard anything about Neel was when his friends gave speeches extolling his generous nature, and they unanimously echoed what we all had seen very evidently by then- Nirvi and him bring out the best in each other, and they both haven’t been spotted happier than when they are together.
The end. :’)